Entitled DIL Insists on ‘Borrowing’ Late Father-in-law’s Wedding Ring, Despite MIL Putting Her Foot Down, Family Takes DIL’s Side: ‘You’re stuck in the past’

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    I told her I wasn't comfortable with that. The ring is so personal to me. It's not just something you loan out—it's a part of my memories with him. But Jenna didn't seem to understand. She got upset and said she didn't think I trusted her and that I was being selfish for keeping something so meaningful to our
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    r/AITAH •11 hr. ago bluesjean AITA for Refusing to Let My Daughter-in-Law Take My Late Husband's Wedding Ring?
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    I'm a widow in my 60s. My husband passed away 10 years ago, and I've kept his wedding ring in a little box with some of his things. It's nothing fancy—just a plain gold band-but it's one of the few things I still have that feels like him. Sometimes, when I miss him, I take it out and hold it. It's been a real comfort over the years.
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    My daughter-in-law, Jenna, has always commented on the ring when she visits. She'll say things like, 'It's so timeless,' or, 'I'd love to wear something with that kind of history.' I thought she was just being nice, but last week, she came right out and asked if she could borrow it for a while. I didn't really know how to
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    respond at first. She said wearing it would help her feel closer to the family and honor my husband.
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    I told her I wasn't comfortable with that. The ring is so personal to me. It's not just something you loan out-it's a part of my memories with him. But Jenna didn't seem to understand. She got upset and said she didn't think I trusted her and that I was being selfish for keeping something so meaningful to our
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    family locked away. She even said it would mean more to her to wear it than for me to just keep it in a box.
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    My son didn't really say much at the time, but later, I got a text from Jenna. It was long and emotional. She said she was hurt, that I was treating her like an outsider, and that maybe I was "too stuck in the past" to see how much this would mean to her. She even hinted that I was being controlling, which honestly broke my heart.
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    Now, some other family members are saying I'm overreacting, and that it's just a ring, but it doesn't feel that way to me. My husband and I were married for 35 years. That ring has been with me through everything-good times, bad times, raising our kids. I don't want to sound dramatic, but it feels like a piece of him is still
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    with me. I can't imagine letting it out of my sight. I'm starting to wonder if I'm being unreasonable, though. Jenna seems to think I'm trying to shut her out, and the last thing I want is to cause tension in the family. I don't know if I should apologize or stick to my decision. AITA?
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    FrontTour1583 • 11h ago !? Who are these family members saying your late husband's WEDDING RING is just another piece of jewelry? That's bananas. NTA but your DIL and any family members encouraging this lunacy is.
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    She was wildly out of line to ask for the ring. this is crazy. Even if it was your son/his son asking that would be iffy and totally reasonable to say no. The wedding ring was a special symbol between you and your husband. No one else. This is wild.
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    Also if the ring isn't that big of a deal then it's not a big deal to wear it. Can't have it both ways to those saying it's not a big deal. "DIL, while I appreciate that you want to form stronger bonds with our family, this isn't the way to do it. That
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    ring isn't something I would ever loan out or give to anyone else. It is a symbol of my 35 year marriage to the love of my life. It was inappropriate for you to ask for it in the first place and wildly inappropriate for you to react this way to me saying no."
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    I really can't believe this even has to be said. Also, I would hide the ring when she or your son are over. Or wear it. .
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    BulbasaurRanch • 11h ago • She's not even related to your husband? Like, a child requesting it I can see. But it's her father- in-laws wedding ring? lol she can get f ed. She has zero claim to it.
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    Aledraws5 11h ago • NTA. It's your husband's wedding ring. You have every right to decide if you lend it or not. And I'm not even sure the ring would fit her. If you lent it to her, she could try to get it resized to fit her.
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    Ok_Stable7501 11h ago • Top 1% Commenter She saw your late husband's wedding ring and thought... mine... mine... mine.. because? Why? Unless she's a gollum and it's a magic ring, this makes no sense. Not everything belongs to you is a kindergarten level concept.
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    Is it too later for your son to return her? NTA
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    FloMoJoeBlow • 11h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA. Jenna certainly is entitled, huh? It's really wierd that the daughter IN LAW wants a man's ring, not the son. You need to shut her down. I absolutely cannot imagine having the selfish balls (or stupidity) to ask a widowed parent in law for something so personal.
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    GovernmentBu... • 11h ago • Top 1% Commenter What an entitled brat. She has no right to ask that of you. It actually makes me feel angry that she would try to guilt trip you over something that is none of her business

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